Sun Valley Camp poster and camp info
Click here for Poster for Sun Valley camp
Plus here’s a link for info on the event: http://www.zenergyatthunderspring.com/events/Ski_to_Live_2012.pdf
Tip #5, Honoring Your Yes’s and No’s
This may surprise you, but discipline, perseverance, setting an intention, drive, the will; all those celebrated states usually taught by sports coaches, are completely outdated. Same with goal setting.
Here’s why. I remember having to perform a difficult ski photo shoot while still recovering from an injury. I wanted to maintain status and sponsors so I “sucked it up” “did it anyway” “refused to give up” “pushed through the pain and fear.” Sounds powerful right?
Such willed effort is fine in a pinch: I skied great that day, but here’s the problem: doing something I didn’t feel like doing was the first step toward future burn out and ultimately resenting my sport.
There’s a better path.
Let’s say you don’t feel like going the gym but force yourself to go anyway. Sound familiar?
Picture a hose. All day long feelings and experiences flow through that hose. In this case ‘should I go to the gym?’ shows up. Next comes ‘no I don’t want to!’
Now picture you’re a corporation made up of 10,000 different employees. The mind is one of these employees. Throw in determination or a fitness goal and the mind becomes very clever at suppressing any employee who gets in its way, in this case; ‘No I don’t want to.’
She puts duct tape over ‘No’s’ mouth and throws her down the basement stairs. You trot off to the gym feeling victory over perceived ‘negativity.’
The mind does this enough times and guess what? The employee of ‘No I don’t want to’ isn’t taking the abuse quietly. She isn’t dying in the basement. She’s fighting back, plotting, building strength, having to do her job in a covert, pathological way and will even scream now in order to be heard.
Your hose is now kinked, and a war has started. You are now at war with your self. And you can’t see it because it’s being carried out in your subconscious.
But you can feel it. Repressed experiences and emotions remain in our systems and run our lives covertly, sometimes for decades or even lifetimes. They come out in the most disruptive ways- straining our relationships, causing injury, showing up as disease and body aches. They pinch off the possibility for happiness to enter. Over time you become burned out. All because the mind and the will refuse to be intimate with anything negetive ot working against a master plan.
What if, instead you had a consciousness practice, where you could first see how the mind and all her buddies act as slave drivers. To see it is to stop it. Stop that war. In today’s evolutionary world, next you welcome your emotions and experiences as they flow through the hose, and this way your mind instead sets you free.
What would you do with that freedom? Could you just listen to the wisdom of each moment as it flows through the hose, rather than crack a whip?
If I could go back and feel that pressure to ski injured over again, I would have honored fear and pain instead, and chosen my ‘No.’
How about you? When you think you should go to the gym and ‘No’ shows up, would you let her be this time? If so, she’ll only speak for about 15-40 seconds before she’s gone and another employee shows up.
It might even be this time: Yes.
Patrick Fagan
“When I first heard about (STL) I thought (Kristen was) a crazy cliff launcher who’s trying to cash in on her fame by hosting some foo-foo Zen-ski clinic. That judgment was soooo wrong. Kristen, you invited me to do things differently, I started to open up, (another STLer wrote that she started blooming), to see different options than the same-old-thing. I realize that I am content with how I ski. As a ski instructor, this is a sin. A vicious circle had been broken. But, you, and what you do, have helped me reconnect with the mountains, spirituality, skiing, people, my job, myself and “it.” My wheel is unstuck. From the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU.” -Patrick Fagan
Jeff Fink
“I couldn’t really tell much about STL from the outside, but it looked “different” and different was what I was looking for. The frankly radical mix you’ve created in STL appeals to individuals who have, in one way or another, already begun a search—for greater meaning. This was certainly true in my case. Ski to Live was a tangible step that I could take in response to a growing sense that I needed to do something different with my life. And now, last month, with love and gratitude to you, I cashed in a twenty-plus-year career to begin the process of exploring.” -Jeff Fink
Kim Fredericks
“Your Ski to Live Clinic was one of the best things I ever did. Whenever I get in a situation on skis where I begin to doubt my abilities, I always go back to my experiences there I realized that I don’t need to be so hard on myself.” -Kim Fredericks
Martha Hamilton
“I am on this amazing turbo charged growth path – I am blooming faster and faster, at a wonderfully rapidly unfolding pace- there are truly no words to describe this. Ski to Live is one of the three BIGGEST events in my life that have helped me really turn a HUGE corner. I am deeply grateful!! Thank YOU!” -Martha Hamilton
Gregg and Sheridan Davis
“For me, Ski to Live is my reality, because skiing is our lives, but it’s not just self-indulgent or hedonistic, rather it takes us to a place of clarity, joy and insight about our place in the world. This type of program has to be led by someone who also really believes this, and I would recommend it to friends because the leadership, particularly with Kristen, was outstanding.” -Gregg and Sheridan Davis
Kathy Epley
“I got some mind blowing insights, not just on my motivations around skiing, but my motivations for just about anything. I had fun because Kristen put together a program that attracted very diverse, but fascinating and accomplished individuals that were themselves inspirational.” -Kathy Epley
Dave Arnold
“I came to ski. I left enlightened. I have done many ski stories, this was the first that left me feeling enriched, not hedonistically pampered, by the sport.” -Dave Arnold, article in The Boston Globe about the Snowbird clinic
