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100 Questions To Being In Flow With Your Emotions

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100 Questions To Being In Flow With Your Emotions

When negative emotions take over, nothing else matters. Your mind loops relentlessly. You feel crummy. It’s so hard just to get through the day. Or, perhaps you go numb and start to feel dead inside. Either way, one thing’s clear, you need to get out of this emotional prison as soon as possible so you can start living again. But how do you do that? What action should you take? Learn More

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List of Payoffs

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Here’s the deal: Especially if you’ve had an emotional issue for a year or longer, you may be surprised that you receive one or even several dozen payoffs (aka “perks”) for having this issue in your life. Payoffs that you likely don’t want to give up.

And the thing is, you probably have never acknowledged them. Or even know that you have them. Or certainly, know what they are. All you may be aware of is; you aren’t motivated or can’t seem to shake this issue, and have merely resorted to coping mechanism to deal with it, and nothing more.

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List of Payoffs For Keeping Your Problem Around

Identifying: Why You Don’t Do Much to Resolve Your Emotional Issue

List of Payoffs For Keeping Your Problem Around

Identifying: Why You Don’t Do Much to Resolve Your Emotional Issue

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This is a detailed checklist of the many reasons you unconsciously keep your emotional problem around.

Here’s the deal: Especially if you’ve had an emotional issue for a year or longer, you may be surprised that you receive one or even several dozen payoffs (aka “perks”) for having this issue in your life. Payoffs that you likely don’t want to give up.

And the thing is, you probably have never acknowledged them. Or even know that you have them. Or certainly know what they are. All you may be aware of is; you aren’t motivated or can’t seem to shake this issue, and have merely resorted to coping mechanism to deal with it, and nothing more.

This is a clear sign you receive payoffs for having this issue in your life.

Now, do you really want to be stuck like this, forever?

If no, this list is your way out.

Here’s how it works:

Imagine you’ve been living in the dark your whole life. It’s not too bad, and you’ve gotten used to it. Comfortable even.

But suddenly, the lights turn on for a moment. You quickly see that you’re in prison, and exactly what kind of prison it is. The lights may go back out a moment later, but you can’t un-see this. And only now, do you have choices on what to do about it; whether to stay, or go.

This is exactly what happens, when you explore the list.

Which is why Kristen considers it to be a mandatory first step to guiding you out of that prison, and into other possibilities.

Is this what you need?

This List of Payoffs is perfect for you, if:

  • you're stuck in an emotional rut and have been there too long

  • you have no idea where to even begin to get out of this rut

  • you have been 'trying' to feel better, but nothing seems to last

  • you're sick of yourself, always feeling and being this way

  • you don't want therapy, you just want answers

  • you want to know what holds you back, from making a change

  • you have one foot an the accelerator, but another on the brake

  • you're embarrassed about who you are, or who you've become

  • you're finally ready to figure this out, and take action

  • conversely, you're curious about your loved one, who doesn't seem to want to change

  • you'd like to know if you're enabling them in some way, that harms their progress

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Take A Look Under The Hood

" Most folks with emotional issues don't know this, but they're getting some sort of payoff for keeping those issues around. And they don't want to give them up. "

- Kristen Ulmer

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Kristen has helped tens of thousands of clients make powerful perspective shifts around fear and anxiety...

Now it’s your turn

Don’t stay in denial a moment longer. Review this list and wake up to your patterns now.

STEP 1 :  Click the BUY NOW button, then checkout using our secure checkout page

STEP 2 : You immediately are sent a download link to view the list

STEP 3 : Whenever ready, you can always find the list in the download section of My Account

STEP 4 :  Start reading to start the process of waking up, and getting out of the dark 

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Frequently Asked Questions

I'm certain I don't get any payoffs for having my emotional issue.

Kristen hears this a lot. Yet, once she starts working with a new client, they both discover that’s actually not true. In fact, they discover, especially if the emotional issue has been around for awhile, the payoffs are quite numerous, or often elaborate or deeply hidden.

So, while we know this seems hard to process right now, that’s all the more reason for you to view this list. We think you’re going to be very surprised by what you discover about yourself, and how much of an impact this information lends to your recovery.

I'm trying to understand why my loved one won't do anything to resolve their emotional issue. Does this list help?

Absolutely. This helps you understand in no uncertain terms why your loved one won’t do anything to help themselves. More importantly, it shows you how you may be enabling them, by contributing to or even providing their payoff.

This list is as much for you, as it is for them.

What do I do with this list, once I read through it?

That is up to you. For some folks- to see it is to stop it. Merely seeing your payoffs, makes you organically take steps to give up those payoffs. Meaning, this list can be all you need to wake up and make changes.

For others, you require an extra nudge, or extra work. You may go unconscious again the very next day, in which case come back to the list with fresh eyes again and again, until you really ‘get it.’

For once you get it, know there is a tipping point where the costs of keeping your issue around, suddenly exceed the payoffs. Then and only then, is it time to get to work to manifest a different future.

Is Kristen a doctor or therapist?

No. Kristen’s training started with real world experience; being the best in the world at a difficult sport for 12 years, exploring exactly what works and what doesn’t regarding fear and other emotions, in a heightened environment.

Then, she voraciously studied not psychology, but Zen for over 15 years. This is what helped her most of all, establish and solidify her current methods and practices.

Her third credential came from working with over ten thousand clients now, over the last two decades, helping them gain remarkable and proven results.

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